There are moments in life when it seems like the world is against you! You’ll know the feeling! It’s when you first wake up in the morning; already feeling exhausted from a restless mind, then an unrelenting barrage of bullshit smacks you in the face! You’re trapped in stupor.
The past, present and inevitable future days are trapped in a painful repetition of discontentment ‘groundhog day’!You feel like a goldfish trapped in a bowl, never seeing, feeling or hearing anything different! When faced with constant adversity is it any wonder that sometimes you feel like packing your rucksack and heading off!
Living in the 21st Century as a young adult is exciting. You can travel the length and breadth of this beautiful world; there are cures for no end of diseases, with many being discovered every day. The serious stuff is all about your attire, parties and the all-important social diary, ‘Tweeting’ and the ‘Likes’ on Facebook to prove one’s popularity. It’s an exciting moment, albeit on occasions an anxious one. It’s a time when you believe the future is all yours and in your total control. You can be anything you want to be when you grow up, a chef, train driver, doctor, an astrophysicist, artist or writer, an astronaut or even the future prime minister. Amazingly, you’re too young to vote; yet you have the daunting task of planning your entire life. Every thought or action molds your future! It’s a hard call to make!
I remember that feeling! The innate power, the total belief that everything was within our grasp, and that we could possess anything our hearts desired? Priorities were so different when we were young.
Life, however, changes! You suddenly hit your 30s then 40s, 50s etc. and realise that life is not what you meant for it to be. Somewhere along the way you lost control and sight of your intended future. But once you hit those 30s-plus decades, no matter what your situation, it comes with assets that you don’t just get from university, parties or even youth. It comes from life and living and it’s called ‘experience’. Without experience life would be more like the dodgems. I believe that “Failure is experience, experience is practice, and practice makes perfect!”.
The only thing that fails us in maturity is the belief that we owe everyone our time, energy, emotion, and our soul. We are at the world’s beck and call. No matter what the calling, there is that innate belief that everyone’s woe is our responsibility and takes precedence over our own plan or agenda for the day. Slowly the focus goes and frustration sets in, and then the most dangerous thing of all, resignation, and apathy! Your path becomes clouded and you feel lost and out of control! When ambition goes so does enthusiasm then we procrastinate which can lead to depression.
Take yourself back to the uncomplicated days when your dreams and aspirations seemed achievable! Back to pre ties; the spouse and children, in laws, own parents, siblings, friends and your present job. Are you still at the first job you fell into? Are you desperate to change your path and consequently your future? I’m a great believer in daydreaming! So kick off your shoes, take a seat and remember those dreams you once had and make them real!
Temporarily pack away all distractions of your present life, all things which come as part and parcel of being a caring, loving and supportive human being. What was it you wanted to do? What excited you? Make sub lists and highlight every point that takes you back to when you were ambitious, to that feeling of excitement and determination. Get a set of headphones, lock the door and give yourself time and slowly begin to sculpt the face of your new future! The world will survive without your input for those brief moments. This is the tiny acorn that will eventually propel you to greatness, self-contentment and self-realisation. Very slowly you will begin to value yourself and with continued focus and dedication you will find the road you once believed was yours for the taking!
Is it the end of the road? No, it’s just the beginning of another.
This article is based on my own true-life experiences, written following a series of unfortunate, unforeseen and emotionally painful events!